New Feature! Wearing Hats Wednesday

One of the most common questions I get from prospective clients and customers is, “how do I wear this thing?” In a culture that has steadily become a less formal and hatless world, most people have a hard time gauging when, where, and how they ought to wear a fascinator or hat. Outside of fabulous Royal soirées and Kentucky Derby races, of course. So, in answer to the multitude of questions about hats, RLM is implementing #wearinghatswednesday! I’ll talk about the different hairstyles you can wear with different hat types, show examples of fabulous day-to-day hat wearers, and tips and tricks for keeping these things on.


Today, we’re going to start with a very simple piece to ease in: wearing a small fascinator with long, down hair!


  1. What You’ll Need: Your fascinator, a couple of bobby pins, and your brush for final smoothing. It’s best to get your hair all situated and styled the way you want before thinking about adding your hat. I also keep a couple of other bobbys available incase more securing needs to happen!



prep22. Pin: Take your bobbys and, after finding the spot you think your fascinator will sit naturally, pin your bobbys in and overlapping each other to create an ‘x’. If you have finer, more slippery hair, you might need to add a third to create an ‘*’ shape.



scottish13. Put on your hat: Grab your cute little fascinator and make sure you’ve got a firm hold on how it will attach; you’ll either have a clip (as show here), a comb, an elastic, or a combination of these.scottish2 Once you have a hold on it, slide the piece into the cross you’ve made. Depending on the style of fascinator, you can always play around with different positions: flowers and foof in back, in front, to the side — all of these are acceptable and totally depend on your personal preference or, even how it looks with your face shape and hair style! If it’s still a bit wobbly after pinning in, just slide another bobby in there to keep it secure. Run your brush through to make sure all is smooth and…

Voilà! You are done and ready to hit the town. The great thing about a small fascinator is that it can be worn kind of like a hairflower. It’s not a whole lot of commitment, like a bigger hat and look can be, and you really can wear it out with pretty much any outfit. Plus, instant hair-do! And, as you can see here, there is no fuss, no muss for creating an elaborate hairstyle.


So, there it is, my lovelies! Our first installment of Wearing Hats Wednesday. Check back every week for another round and make sure to follow our Wednesday hat adventures over on Instagram! And, in the meantime, if you have any hatty questions do send them my way. Who knows? We could feature your question in the blog.


Tea Time and Magnolias

Today there is rain and low hanging fog banks. There are puddles on the ground and drops collecting on the eaves. The birds are singing and fluttering about the trees. The air is clean and cool and heavy with the smell of good earth. I have longed for these things. Our poor state has longed for these things, as we have not had rain for what feels like a year. But it is back! And has been steady for the past few days. In honor of the thrill of moisture back in the air, I have taken the dog on several long rain walks. We bundled up and roamed the town just for the feel of the drops on our faces. We stood and watched birds, or just paused silently to enjoy the softness of the sounds about. We smelled the good smells and splashed the muddy waters along the embankments.

And now, everyone is dry and curled up in the warm house. Dog is curled up in her bed asleep, and I am perched at the dining room table with a view of outside, a cat in my lap, and a warm

Imagepot of tea. I made some brownies, which are now baking in the oven, and the smell wafts through the house. There is something so wonderful about enjoying the rain from inside. The soft pitter patter on the roof, the diffused grey glow that seems to warm the light. It is all very cozy and romantic. And, feeling this way, I even went out and picked a few magnolias from our bursting tree to bring them into my little snugly bubble of tea time and musings. 

However, as much as I long to dilly dally away the morning with fluttery thoughts, I have been hard at work and will continue to be for the next few months. RLM is preparing for a very big feature in April, and must prepare stock. As 2013 was such a good year for RLM, I realized that my stock was almost nil! So, with my fingers flitting away, with pricks and pokes, I am churning out some fun new pieces. And, dear readers, as you are my special and loved coterie, I am going to give you a preview. Ta-da!


This lovely will be available very soon, as will some others that I have hidden away. Meanwhile, I must get back to stitching and warming myself with tea. Stay cozy, my dear ones, and enjoy your weathery weekends! Until next time.

Rose La Mer Enters 2014


I have neglected my poor blog for so long! 2013 was a very busy and successful year for RLM. As part of getting back into the swing of blogging, here is a quick review of the major events I participated in.


1. Photoshoot with the spectacular Ruby Collins. We got together with Melissa Dee, model, and

Lilly Fuentes-Joy Photography in Port Costa for a vintage inspired shoot. We took over The Bull Valley Roadhouse and the Burlington Hotel for a few hours to catch some stunning images.

2. Trunk shows. RLM participated in several awesome trunk shows this past year! One of the shows even helped benefit a school in San Francisco, which is always a fun way to get people excited. Another was at my girlfriends hair salon in the Haight for an art walk! Met some wonderful new acquaintances and sold several of my all time favorite pieces.

3. Custom orders. The demand for custom pieces this year totally exploded! I love doing custom pieces. Not only do customers get exactly what they want, but it gives me the chance to really get to know them. Its a great way to make new friends!

Image4. Gatsby! My goodness! Thank you, Mr. Gatsby and Daisy. With their help, I was able to participate in several 1920s shows. Each was a fashion show wrapped into a swanky party attended by some very well dressed folks! The final Gatsby show of the year I helped with was run by Global Green and my wonderful girlfriend, Lily Achatz. With a fashion show and a fundraiser, Global Green helps raise awareness for local and community issues that need help. It was an honor to be included in such a amazing fundraiser! RLM even got a huge banner up on the wall. Fun!

5. Shop and branding updates. In the grand scheme of things, RLM has not been around for very long. I’ve been figuring out things on my own as I move forward. Part of the learning curve is continuing to create a cohesive look and feel for my brand. I want all aspects of RLM to coordinate. Everything from the little tags I tie on to the look of my social media sites. So, over the summer and into the


winter, I worked diligently on shifting the look of RLM. Signage at shows, tags, cards, Facebook, Etsy, everything is now slowly coming together. My Etsy shop is now starting to feel like one page with the colors of my backgrounds and the way I take my product photography.

I also have had the joy of coming together with a fantastic group of women who are excited to help me move forward. My girls are all models and photographers with a similar esthetic to me. During the summer we came together for a huge all day shoot. With three gals taking photos and a bunch of us modeling, we churned out an amazing slew of product photos. Its been such a joy to work with so many amazing ladies, including House of Winter, Roxy Tart, Cherry D’Lish, and Elyse. We are looking forward to another huge day together, this time in Port Costa, coming up in March. It should be a total fashion and girls in pretties explosion!


6. The Vintage Doll for RLM. My darling acquaintance, Mimi La Rue, was so sweet to do a full review and feature of RLM. Mimi is a wonderful pin-up model who is actively engaged in the “Love Your Body” campaign and is constantly promoting self love and worth for women.


All in all, 2013 was a fantastic year! Saying goodbye to original pieces is always a tough move, but its better to say hello to new customers and friends. I had a fantastic journey and am looking forward to another great year with the amazingness I’ve been lucky to surround myself with! Stay tuned for more!


xo Kelsey

Summer Days Are Here Again…

Well, its that time of year again. The sun is shining, the bugs have moved in, and my redneck neighbors are hollering at the top of their lungs again. I swear, they’re like mosquitos. All winter they disappear and as soon as it gets warm, they burst forth in a frenzy of “f**k you”‘s, “I don’t give a sh*t”‘s, and slamming doors. And they tell me my 10lbs chihuahua is the terror of the town. Please.

Anyway, my car has decided to give-up on life today, so I’ve had to forgo work and stay at home. As weird as I feel being at home on a work day NOT being sick, I’ve enjoyed myself. And so I’ve decided to write a happy blog post. This is a recap of my life since last time.

I have spent much of my time hidden indoors stitching away until my fingers turn red, but since the sun has graced us with her presence, I have found myself making up reasons to spend time in her glory. And one of those excuses was throwing a picnic. I rounded up a few of my most cherished persons, packed them into my car, and drove up into the Tilden Hills of Berkeley. We brought cheeses, fruit, breads, guacamole, dates, hummus, wine, whiskey, and stuffed my new $5 picnic basket

I finally found a reason to use my vintage parasol, as well!

and $5 vintage booze case (which I mentioned a long time ago in a previous post). We sprawled out on blankets and soaked up the sun. The men puffed cigars, and the ladies made daisy chains and all the while we enjoyed each other’s company, good music, good food, and laughed at Iggy the pup chase turkeys. And then we all went home and were asleep by 8pm. Good times.

After my relaxing day with beautiful weather, delicious food, and wonderful people, I discovered I was not done with being in the sun. I took walks through my tiny town with Boyfriend and the pup, I rolled my windows down in the car, and in the evenings I would sit out on our deck. It would not do! And then, as if by divine intervention, my darling friend Stephy, from Honey Cooler Handmade,  called me and asked me to share a booth with her at a fair. I immediately said yes, and found myself thrown into the excitement of Urban Air Market.

Urban Air is a festival that happens once a year in Hayes Valley in San Francisco. Vendors are chosen through an application process, so the quality of the items is extremely high, and the materials sold must be repurposed and recycled. The fair is set up in the beautiful area surrounding the park between Octavia St. and Hayes, and the streets are shut down for one day. That day being May 6th.

It dawned a gorgeous sunny day with a breeze. Stephy got our booth space early in the morning, and I met her at 9.30. We set up tables and racks, and Boyfriend set up a dressing room for us. By eleven we were as ready as we would ever be, and then the people came. What an amazing experience! We could barely leave the booth there were so many people. All the amazing SF folk were out; bikers, couples, families, tons of dogs, and more! We made friends with Melody, the adorable girl next to us, who runs Isobell. She makes gorgeous jewelry. Go look-see.

A shot of my table before the day began. It was messy and sparse at the end of the day.

After hours of standing on our poor highheeled feet (I wore my gorgeous 1940s cream and red spectator pumps) and talking to tons of people, we were able to break down our booth at 6 pm. Steph’s man came and helped us load out, and we parted ways tired and ready for food. Burgers and milkshakes to be precise. Both of us made sales, new friends, and had a blast teaming up. We are officially making it work. Thank you, Tim Gunn.

Now, I am feeling those post-show blues and trying to figure out what to make next. Instead of thinking hard, I decided to spend my day off organizing all the new goodies I have stacked around my studio. I have put on Joni Mitchell and Maria Muldaur, poured myself a whiskey, and am singing loudly to my animals as I find places for everything.

The new goal for myself is to do a trunk show. Something bridal. I must tap further into the bridal market. I did finish a piece for my darling friend and bride Susie, and I have another piece coming up for Gaby, but the market for wedding shows is amazing. Steph and I are conspiring ways to do private shows in gorgeous hotels in the city before the wedding season hits so we can get our stuff out there. The only catch is actually making some more pieces for brides and bridesmaids. White, ivory, flowers, and netting. And something blue. Life goes on.

And now, instead of avoiding my fate, I will wrap this up and begin the planning for my next adventure. I will watch my Downton Abbey, and I will make sure my table space is usable. Until then, enjoy the sunny days and don’t forget to wear sunscreen!

Mucha and Lady Mary survey my work.

Thank You! And Downton…

First of all, I want to give a huge shout out to every single one of you for your undying support! Thank you thank you thank you to those of you who have ‘liked’ me on facebook! Thank you to my dear 12 loyal blog followers! Thank you to all of the busybees on etsy who have added me to circles, added my items to their favorites and treasuries, and given me wonderful advice! And thank you to all of my poor friends who have to listen to me talk constantly about my passion. I know it can be tedious, but you have no idea what your support does. I feel like I can do anything with all of you behind me!

But, with that said, my taxes have put me in a foul mood. I have decided to remedy this awful knot of money pain in my stomach with whiskey, Powerberries from TJ’s, and Downton Abbey. These, as of now, are all currently my obsessions. If you have not eaten Powerberries you must go buy some right now. They are like crack but of dark chocolate and fruit. And if you have not watched Downton Abbey you must NOW. It is a remarkable soap opera with gorgeous 19teens clothing and jewels, poignant glances between people as they walk down candle lit hallways, intense sexual tension, and the wittiest banter I wish I could speak daily. I do nothing but weep and squeal when I watch it. Poor Boyfriend. But the girls’ nights are so much more hilarious!

She is so bloody put together!

Anyway, I am in love with Mary’s hats. I. Want. To. Be. Her. Loooooooooookkkkkkkkk…look at how elegant. Not only is each hat unique, but they always look like her hat. The cute little upturned, asymmetrical brims are just so wonderful.

I cannot stand it any longer. I have decided I want to make a hat similar to a Mary hat. I’ve never worked with making something with straw before, and I know one can buy pre-blocked straw forms, but I think it would be fun. This is the one I want to do. If you’ve watched DA, you know that the last episode of Season 1 is the garden party. There, Mary wears the sweetest little hat, and I am crushing so hard on it. It is of very light straw with different purple hued ribbons, and what appears to be white silk flowers bunched at the upper side of the hat. This is the best shot i was able to find, for it seems that no one cares as much about this as I. Thats okay. I want it.

I’m not sure what it is about Mary and her hats (not to mention her clothing), but they have changed me and my appreciation. I never was much into the tighter, asymmetrical, almost 20s looking hats. But with these wonderful creations I have a new found love. Thank you, milliners of Downton Abbey, for doing such a fantastic job.

So, as I growl at my tax forms and groan at the e-filing, all I have to do is push play to enter a world that makes my stress seem so…mundane. Oh, to be wealthy, gorgeous, and torn between duty and love. And on that parting note, I will leave you with my all time favorite outfit and scene from this world. Happy tax weekend!!

Mary's sister, Sybil, shows off her newest "frock." I love this!




Spring Has Sprung!


Mucha the kitteh admires my Easter flower arrangement, thus getting in my shot. HAPPY SPRING!


So, the sun is shining, the flowers are blooming, and lots of things are happening!

First and foremost, one of my best friends in the entire world is getting married, and she has asked me to make her a headpiece for the wedding. I am so honored! And very excited. She has given me a brooch that her mother gave her, and I will be adding cream netting and feathers. Photos to come! Love to my Rosemary.

Secondly, the wonderful gals at SF RAW have asked me to come back and showcase again this month! Whoohoo! I can’t wait to get back out there. And I can’t wait to be apart of the activities again.

Third, I have added four new listings to my etsy shop! Here is a view of one:



Lastly, I have made bunches of little daisy and rose clips. The roses are for sale on etsy, but the daisies are awaiting my decision. I really want someone to love them, but I think I want to do a give away. I’m not sure. Suggestions?? Mucha seems to want to keep them all for herself…

What to do, what to do??


Well, there is my short update for the fun that is awaiting me! I have several new pieces lined up (including a piece that has Victorian goodies from my darling Stephanie over at Honey Cooler Handmade) and will be reshooting some of my older fascinators . Look out world! And enjoy your Easter!



Rose La Mer Makes Headway

So, as it turns out, I made some amazing contacts with some amazing people through RAW. And one of those amazing people runs her very own fashion blog and talks about lots of wonderful things. She decided to do a quick interview with me about Rose La Mer and feature me on her blog. Hurray! I am super excited and thrilled that she picked me out.

Clicky here to be forwarded to my interview, and Olivia's awesome blog!

Olivia and I have decided to team up and hopefully do some photoshoots together using her stylish eye and my hats. I can’t wait!